parenting

Parenting after trauma

Parenting is a challenge at the best of times! If we have additionally suffered from trauma earlier in life - especially abuse, neglect, or other harm done to us by someone close - there may be additional challenges to manage. The normal things kids do can remind us of upsetting things in the past, and therefore become much harder to manage. For example, my child has trouble managing his angry feelings, and perhaps starts fights with his younger sibling when he is angry at him.

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Tuning Relationships with Music: free counselling for parents and teens

Tuning Relationships with Music is a form of counselling for parents who have a history of abuse or other relationship trauma,  and their teens who want to improve communication and reduce conflict in their relationship. It uses music as a fun and engaging way to focus on the nonverbal parts of how we communicate, as well as the words that we use. Because this is a new method, a research trial will look at developing it further by asking interested parents and teens to participate.

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Five steps to helping your child develop emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence, or EQ, is very important! Research has shown that people who score highly in EQ do better in all areas of life - not just in their relationships and social worlds, but in their careers as well. So what is it? Emotional intelligence is the ability to be aware of our own and other people's emotions, to respond to emotions with kindness and compassion, to use this awareness to inform problem solving, and to manage intense emotions well - this may include controlling when and how we express our emotions.

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Attachment focused parenting" Dr Daniel Hughes - a review

Attachment-Focused Parenting: Effective Strategies to care for Children: Dr Daniel Hughes (2009).

 

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How do I help my kids learn to positively manage their negative emotions?

Helping children learn to manage their emotions isn’t easy, but it pays off, say advocates of “emotion coaching.”

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The children come first:- parenting the 'inner child' in intimate relationships

These days, as parents of young children, we emphasise the importance of putting the children first - their needs take priority. And rightly so! Children are not able to care for themselves; we need to attend to their needs and in doing so, teach them that it's OK to have their needs met - physically, emotionally and developmentally.

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Gender and relationships

Did you know that, in spite of the enormous amount of attention given to the supposed differences betwen women and men in media and other written sources, that we are much more alike than different? And that what research actually does show is, where gender roles are less stereotyped - that is, where women and men are prepared to share housework, childcare, earning income and so on - relationships are more durable and successful? Not only for the couple - children do so much better when their Dads  are actively involved in their lives.

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It takes a caring community to help children recover after trauma

Recently we were very lucky to have the renowned researcher Bruce Perry visit Melbourne, and share the latest findings about what neurobiological understandings of trauma can teach us about how to help traumatized kids who may be having all sorts of difficulties with managing their feelings, getting on with other kids, as well as completing the developmental tasks they need to achieve as part of growing up.

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