Caring for one or more children with a disability is rewarding - a labour of love and of course part of the job of being a parent - but is also hard work! So often finite amounts of energy, time and money are stretched so far that parents 'triage' their resources according to where the need for them is most urgent. A typical scenario may look something like this:- one parent is the primary caregiver and prioritizes 1. the disabled child 2. other children then are attended to and at times put first 3. running the household.