Most of us know that it requires work to keep the passion alive in our relationships over the long haul, after the 'honeymoon period' is over. We know that it's important to nurture intimacy in the broader sense - making sure we are spending quality time together, remaining interested and curious about each other's interests and concerns, cultivating an attitude of playfulness and exploration as we continue to deepen our knowledge of what delights and fulfills our partner sexually. 

You've made the difficult decision to separate. What's the best way to help your kids deal with it? It's not easy, especially when you're having to deal with your own strong emotions about what's happening, as well as manage the practicalities of sorting your finances, where to live and so on.

When couples come to counselling, often they have lost sight about what is working well in their relationship. They may have a 'problem-saturated' story about their history together - that is, they can only remember the times where they have either felt disappointed in their partner, or times where they feel they have failed in their relationship.

If you are in this position, it may he belpful to ask yourselves the following questions:-

What are my partner's strengths, that attracted me to him/her in the first place?

What are the strengths about our relationship?

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